I have been experiencing some new feelings as a paternal grandmother.
My son has split from his girlfriend and they have a son together. She has been a very controlling and hurtful person, and using my grandson as a weapon to try to win my son back.
This however is not what where my subject matter is going, this is about the rights of grandparents.
Are there any for the paternal side of the child’s family. After much advise searching and deep conversations with those in authority. NO not a one.
If this person wants to she can sign her son over to one of her family I would have no rights what so ever to gain more visitation rights.
It is a helpless plight, I am resigned to the fact that I may only get to see my grandson once the access and custody case has gone to court, and my son has time with him.
Yester day was a revelation as my grandson got to spend the day with us; it was a wonderful to have some time with him. We have not seen him for two weeks since he was in hospital and his mother, would not allow me or my daughter to see him.
I understand that my grandson’s mother has a right to be who she is but it has brought out in me a very strong maternal instinct for protection towards my son and grandson.
Before they split up I got to have my grandson at least twice a week. Sometimes more but now I don’t have that, my son has to share his time with me and my daughter. I feel he has been cheated in some way and I feel a little cheated too.
Once it goes to court which may take some time and a lot more conflict I will hopefully see an end to my son’s turmoil and hopefully get to see my grandson regularly.
I wondered if there are any other paternal grandmothers out there or any single dads who have had this problem of just loving a member of their family and have had an extreme feeling of loss.
My spirituality has been tested beyond all parameters. I have sent out as many prayers for healing and peace in my heart I could possibly think of.
I have had amazing support from those who have given prayers of healing for my grandson’s wellbeing.
Being a grandmother I have to admit isn’t what I expected, I now have to put out my forgiveness to both my children’s’ paternal grandmother’s and say with all my heart I am sorry, I didn’t always involve them in my children’s growth.
I hope that both their spirits as they are passed now understand that these things happen and maybe this is a lesson for me to see that it’s about the children.
My son’s grandmother I have to be honest was a very close and wonderful friend to me, but I moved away and she didn’t get to see my son that often.
My daughter’s grandmother never got to see her granddaughter at all as this was her father’s choice.
I know from the recent contact of my daughter’s with her father that his mum did keep a photograph of her as an infant that I had originally sent to him and she had known about her grand daughter who lived away.
This has made me realise that older family members are needed in a child’s life if it benefits them, if there is nurturing to offer and encouragement and of course the most unconditional of all Love as only Love is real.
I miss my grandson and I know that my daughter misses him too. So I can understand my son’s heart aches when he does not get to see his son regularly.
Years ago it didn’t matter that a guy would walk away from the mother of his child but times have changed and a man is showing how much he wants to be a part of a child’s life.
I am only speaking from personal experience I brought both my children up with out a permanent father but I feel I have given them a stable home and a good way of knowing love, trust and support and that having family close is important.
My son has split from his girlfriend and they have a son together. She has been a very controlling and hurtful person, and using my grandson as a weapon to try to win my son back.
This however is not what where my subject matter is going, this is about the rights of grandparents.
Are there any for the paternal side of the child’s family. After much advise searching and deep conversations with those in authority. NO not a one.
If this person wants to she can sign her son over to one of her family I would have no rights what so ever to gain more visitation rights.
It is a helpless plight, I am resigned to the fact that I may only get to see my grandson once the access and custody case has gone to court, and my son has time with him.
Yester day was a revelation as my grandson got to spend the day with us; it was a wonderful to have some time with him. We have not seen him for two weeks since he was in hospital and his mother, would not allow me or my daughter to see him.
I understand that my grandson’s mother has a right to be who she is but it has brought out in me a very strong maternal instinct for protection towards my son and grandson.
Before they split up I got to have my grandson at least twice a week. Sometimes more but now I don’t have that, my son has to share his time with me and my daughter. I feel he has been cheated in some way and I feel a little cheated too.
Once it goes to court which may take some time and a lot more conflict I will hopefully see an end to my son’s turmoil and hopefully get to see my grandson regularly.
I wondered if there are any other paternal grandmothers out there or any single dads who have had this problem of just loving a member of their family and have had an extreme feeling of loss.
My spirituality has been tested beyond all parameters. I have sent out as many prayers for healing and peace in my heart I could possibly think of.
I have had amazing support from those who have given prayers of healing for my grandson’s wellbeing.
Being a grandmother I have to admit isn’t what I expected, I now have to put out my forgiveness to both my children’s’ paternal grandmother’s and say with all my heart I am sorry, I didn’t always involve them in my children’s growth.
I hope that both their spirits as they are passed now understand that these things happen and maybe this is a lesson for me to see that it’s about the children.
My son’s grandmother I have to be honest was a very close and wonderful friend to me, but I moved away and she didn’t get to see my son that often.
My daughter’s grandmother never got to see her granddaughter at all as this was her father’s choice.
I know from the recent contact of my daughter’s with her father that his mum did keep a photograph of her as an infant that I had originally sent to him and she had known about her grand daughter who lived away.
This has made me realise that older family members are needed in a child’s life if it benefits them, if there is nurturing to offer and encouragement and of course the most unconditional of all Love as only Love is real.
I miss my grandson and I know that my daughter misses him too. So I can understand my son’s heart aches when he does not get to see his son regularly.
Years ago it didn’t matter that a guy would walk away from the mother of his child but times have changed and a man is showing how much he wants to be a part of a child’s life.
I am only speaking from personal experience I brought both my children up with out a permanent father but I feel I have given them a stable home and a good way of knowing love, trust and support and that having family close is important.
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