Emotional abuse and Plight of fathers

I have become a sympathetic heart to those fathers who are estranged from their children who want so much to play an active part in their child’s life. As a cruel way and sometimes unrealistic demands from the mother the children are being used as emotional weapons of abuse.
My son has been separated from his ex partner since November 2007.
He has gone through all kinds of emotions and so many times after her agreeing he can have his son, to come back home with out him. The pain on my son’s face was so heart breaking and having a feeling of helplessness in the situation.

Each time he went to collect his son; she had decided to pick another argument about something so trivial in order to stop him from seeing his son again.
It must be the most torturous of emotional abuse I have ever come in contact with because these women who use their children as weapons do not actually realise how much it is going to damage the relationship they are going to develop with that child as they grow.

It will become a constant fight as the child gets older how they get to visit the father and the child will grow a huge resentment with possible leading to unfounded despising for the mother because, she is using the father in many ways to stop the child from his god given right to love, cherish, nurturing and learn about the things that ‘dad’s’ love to do like play cuddle and have fun, but also to know that the child is loved by his daddy and not that he doesn’t want to see him.

I have spoken to quite a few different men since November and just this morning met an old work colleague from my first year on the Isle of Man. He has had an ongoing battle with his ex wife for ten years! I was so very shocked, one thing he did say is that his daughter is now fifteen and she has chosen for herself and told her mum she would like to visit with her dad at Christmas there were no alternatives when she was younger she only got to spend the days after Christmas with her dad.
The fact that his only contact was through his daughter to gain visitation, he found was really hard and he felt this put a huge burden on her as a child growing up.

I am a single parent and brought both my children up with out resentment or bitterness to use my two children against their father’s that would have only been cruel and very hurtful after all it was not the child’s fault the ex had found somebody else, or that there was not enough money in my purse, they just wanted to see their daddy and I have never stopped this from happening.

If I ever had any grievance with the father, then it was up to me to sort it out not use the visiting as a way to get what I want, it would have only hurt my children I love them and didn’t want to see them upset.

Do these women actually realise how blessed they are having a man that actually wants to be involved in the life of a child they helped to conceive.
If they are in pain for other reasons then deal with it go see a counsellor or talk it out with a best friend but using the child will only hurt you ten fold in the long term.
My son’s father played an active part in his life and I always took him to see his entire dad’s family. He passed away and didn’t get to spend his teenage years with his dad.

My daughter’s father didn’t want to know until she was eighteen, he actually asked me to stop contacting him when she was two because he was serious with somebody and he didn’t want her finding the photographs I had been sending him!!!

My daughter contacted him just after her eighteenth birthday and they are now in contact I get disappointed sometimes that he isn’t in contact more often but my daughter is old enough now to tell him when he is out of order.

So you see I am blessed with a son who has a most amazing heart and loves his son immensely and he is not the only man alive who feels this way remember that there are many, many men out there who truly love children and want nothing more than to be kept awake at four o clock in the morning to play what ever new peek a boo game his one year old has just discovered, or a toy they have learned to pick up and throw at him across the cot to his head!
I also know that when my daughter has children if for any reason the father departs, I know she would not be as cold and calculating as to hold it over his head and not allow him to be involved in their lives.
I know that no matter how many times I say this I know it to be true, that nobody; no matter how much they try can not take the love away you have for your children. No matter how they may try to stop you from seeing them, how many days weeks months or sometimes even years.
Always and for eternity Only love is REAL
DeesInspirations.(C) 08

I have added the blog below as this was written by a friend of mine last january and he wrote a song about the whole feeling. i have had his permission to share this with you.
I hope you read it and read the most beautiful lyrics.
Love Denise

I've been getting a huge amount of private mail from various Fathers Rights campaigners who have been touched by "Just Because." I take that as a huge compliment, and would like to say a few words on the subject.
Let me start off by saying that I'm not a member of any fathers rights groups. Of course, that doesn't mean to say that I don't have an opinion… I do however generally prefer to keep my politics to myself much of the time because I'm an artist. My responsibility is to improve the world around me with the tools that I've been given. It's therefore not my place to alienate a proportion of my public by forcing any views I might have upon them (I achieve much more by publicly airing emotions that we ALL feel through my music). However, the principles that fuel the Fathers 4 Justice campiagn are something that I support in essence, without necessarily endorsing each & every method they use to get their point across. Although the struggle for fathers rights is a highly emotive issue, I honestly believe that it sits apart from political matters. You see, I agree with Bob Geldof who has often said: the F4J cause is not about politics, it's about human rights...
Yes, I've experienced the ludicrous family court system first hand, and can assure all of you that certain laws DO need changing. Unfortunately though, it's one of those things you don't pay much credence to until it actually happens to you. The current system is overt in its discriminatory nature & rarely serves the best interests of the children concerned.
In relation to Fathers 4 Justice (which is incidentally, a worldwide organisation), I feel that they sometimes undermine themselves & much of the time are undermined by an indifferent media & public. Yes, some of their members are nuts & use the organisation as a means to validate their behaviour (and of course, the tabloids LOVE to talk about the crazies!). Surely though, no-one can say that because Ted Bundy was an active member of the Scouts Foundation that most active Scouting brethren are hitherto serial killers?! The public LOVE to make generalisations... The REALITY is that most F4J campaigners are decent everyday folk, just like you and me, who've all of a sudden found themselves on the receiving end of a gross injustice. This creates a need to communicate the injustice; sometimes it's communicated well & sometimes not. Instead of judging the actions themselves, I'd urge you all to try and put yourself in the shoes of an F4J protester for a minute, in order to truly understand the emotions that fuel the protest… Imagine what it must be like to be forcibly removed from the lives of your own children... Seeing your children suffer & not being able to do a thing about it… It creates an un-imaginable kind of frustration that cannot be described.

I'm therefore often shocked by the patronising, derogatory put-downs that many politicians happily use when commenting on fathers rights groups. Because it's always statistically been a small number of folks who suffer at the hands of a ruthless ex & the un-accountable family courts (most couples tend to iron out these situations responsibly), it's never been a big vote winner. It ONLY affects a few thousand people in the UK each year, which is why it's never deemed to be important enough to merit much in the way of political attention... That's the way our democracy works I'm afraid... Not as democratic as some would like to believe.
As for the UK wing of F4J and the supposed "plot to kidnap Tony Blair's son"…
The story originated from the Sun newspaper after a leak from Scotland Yard's press office… Let's face it; the police had been shown up on countless occasions by F4J for their shoddy security (like at the House Of Commons & Buck's Palace) and they decided to get even… If anyone seriously thinks that Fathers 4 Justice was planning a kidnapping, then they deserve to believe everything else that's served up by the tabloids. The demise of the original UK F4J came about because of dis-unity within it's own ranks. Since then, "Real Fathers 4 Justice" was formed & the organisation is as active as ever.
All F4J have been trying to secure is a change to the law that gives kids an automatic right to 50% of each parent when they split up. If folks want any more or less, THEN they should go to court. This system is working very well in Denmark & Sweden and would fix the bulk of the problem.

Obviously, this wouldn't affect the mechanisms that are already in place to prevent abusive dads from having much in the way of contact. Parents who shouldn't be around their kids obviously shouldn't be around their kids, but that's a seperate issue! When debating the pros & cons, folks are all too quick to start mixing their apples with their oranges...

Protecting the interests of the majority of worthy dads DOES NOT mean that the safeguards set up to protect children from bad fathers need to be diminished in any way. The campaign also wants to give the courts the power to ensure that contact orders are enforced. As things currently stand, judges have little power to insist that the resident parent makes the children available for contact when the order states they should. Essentially, a system that was put in place in order to protect vulnerable women is easily abused by a small percentage of ruthless women who are trying to cut their ex's out of their children's lives. F4J are not trying to reduce women's rights in any shape or form, they simply want EQUAL rights... In addition, they would like the rights of GRANDPARENTS to be respected. Often than not, granny & grandpa lose their grandchildren the moment the divorce comes through. I think the majority of society's ills stem from the fact that communities are disintegrating. Why? Because you need families upon which to build your community...
An issue as emotive as this deserves to have its day in Parliament, surely by virtue of the fact that certain people are willing to put themselves on the front line in order to protect the rights of the silent masses. I've often heard people say "they're their own worst enemy…" (well, none of them are professional politicians, so surely the odd faux pas is to be expected); "they're a public nuisance…oh, they've gotta be crazy to do the kind of shit they do…" Well, I hasten to wonder what you would do if you were in a similar situation? Emotions that run so deep will express themselves in a myriad of ways. The combination of frustration, pain, bitterness, resentment and loneliness are enough to drive a man to absolute extremes. We should therefore be exercising a healthy dose of understanding and sympathy for even the most hard-core of campaigners. Besides, all they're trying to do is grab your attention and convey the injustice to you. It might prove to be a minor nuisance when you're late for work and the highway's blocked, but just imagine what's driven a protester to put on a batman suit and dangle himself off a bridge in the first place… After all, it's a pretty passive kind of extremism when you compare it to what we see in the news these days… The outfits, outlandish publicity stunts, and demonstrations are all designed to make us aware of the problem and debate it. This is what I'd like to inspire in anyone reading this... To make you aware of the issue so you can take it away & debate it within your respective communities. The politicians will only end up doing something about this when folks who aren't directly affected by the problem start to get a bee in their bonnet about the injustice. You see, that's the point when it becomes a vote winner...
Most importantly (and strange though it may seem) it could very well be YOU one day. "Oh no, surely not me! I'm happily married, and besides, my wife would never act like that if we were to ever split up."
Yeah, right. I sincerely hope so buddy…
Todd xx

JUST BECAUSE...
(© sharpville 2006)
Just because you cannot see me today
it doesn't mean I'm far away
Just because you cannot touch me my dear
it doesn't mean that I'm not near
Given time you're gonna realise
that I surround you rain or shine
Just because I love you more than life itself
i'm with you all the time…
Just because we have to live apart
it doesn't keep you from my heart
I did everything a man could do
But none of this was up to me (or you)
If you close your eyes and listen hard
you'll hear me whispering through the pines
Just because I love you more than life itself
i'm with you all the time…

middle 8

And my soul is aching
I know you're aching too
Still, this road cannot break me
'cause I know it takes me back to you
Just because you're feeling sad and alone
it doesn't mean you're on your own
Just because we all get old & frail
it doesn't mean our love will not prevail
Given time you're gonna realise
your daddy never left your side
Just because I love you more than life itself
i'm with you all the time…

Good night, we always say Goodnight

G'nite we always say,

this one night my heart breaks,as I realise we didn't say our g'nites,

We didn't say that one phrase to me, that means its the end of our day.

I will see you in the mornin ans I hope you sleep well,

It meant I am sorry I can't always say I love you, but you know I do.

I want to hug you before you go, and say g'nite have a fantastic sleep.

I wanted so much to ask you to stay and climb in bed, so that we could say g'nite face to face with our heads resting on a pillow each that lay on my bed right this minute empty.

Instead I left you to walk to my door and go through the corridor and slam the door shut.

No g'nite, not even a grunt of disapproval for our last few words to each other, an hour of awful silence as if we had created a huge 'wall of atmosphere' somewhere in which to retreat, and ~ not have to ever say a word.

You're gone and I am unable to say G'nite.

My heart aches because this night is incomplete with out saying my g'nite to you.

My salty trail begins to find tracks down my cheeks, my lip begins to quivver.

I had sat in the same place the whole night long, until you walked back in my door and said,

I forgot to say G'nite when I left, and I felt so lost. I came back to say G'mornin' and please can we lay on your pillows and say g'nite there. NOT just this morning but every mornin' for every night.

I want to know we can say G'nite, face to face laying on pillows that face each other, so I can see you before I fall to sleep..........

Dees Inspirations (C) 08

Reing Over Me

I have been moving house over the past three weeks bits at a time and on thursday 17th April we moved all the huge items that couldnt be carried.

It was a very tiring day and we now have the huge task of unpacking and allocating pictures here there and every where.

On Saturday night I decided to go to bed early and watch a Dvd we rented out a couple and this one I had been wanting to see for a while.

Reign over me moved me beyond tears and empathy, it was a beautiful portrayal of friendship, a heartbreaking way to show how as individuals we all deal with grief our own way.

The turmoil we all go through when loss is great can sometimes make the mind shut down, and not want us to have reminders of those lost thrust in our face.

To watch this film is to understand only slightly what trauma those who lost those closest to their hearts, in the 2001 disaster of twin towers being terrorised.

I was astounded as to the way Adam Sandler a know comedy actor portrayed this man, he was truly outstanding as a dramatic artiste. the character he played was somebody I felt I wanted to hug, and care for.

If you have not watched this movie then please rent it or buy it or borrow it from somebody.

It is a truly amazing, tearjerker and passionate film.

Love and light always

To be able to reflect....

to wonder that the past weeks and months I have not felt much like doing any writing or anything else for that matter. I have kept myself occupied by looking after my grandson, cleaning my house and doing all the normal household chores, but by the time it comes to doing something for myself I am too tired and get myself to bed.

I have been reading blogs posted by my friends and the spiritual blogs have given me cause for upliftment and encouragement.

I would like to say a very special thank you to November Rain, as I first come to know her, she has encouraged me in my spirituality more than she knows.

For Marty for being such a wonderful light of confidence and again spiritual encouragement when I read her affirmations and words of wisdom from her elders.

I am sad that I have not been able to share my deep spiritual thoughts in the written word but I am becoming more aware of my spiritual gift and how different my way of life has become over the past year.

I have been doing more readings and I get more and more astounded by each one I bring to the person who is listening or awaiting my words I type to them.

I am unable to explain how I can get a connection but I know when I do that a spirit will hold on to me until the message gets through.Even if the sitter says they dont understand. I ask to keep this in mind because sometimes the memory will be 'jogged' when least expected.

I am quite pleased that I am gaining some confidence to stand for my beliefs and the standards I want to uphold in my life. I am also beginning to set boundaries for my emotional life too, I am letting go of those who are not on the same page as me, those souls who may 'drain' me or feel I am there to be at a beck and call situation. Oh no not at all!

So eventually I will become that person who will again write from the heart and write spiritual words of love and honesty.

In the mean while take this small verse and know it comes from my deepest heart.

Being confused and tumulutous,not being full of confidence is such a drain

Knowing that I have lived in a 'bubble' that has now began to burst

it has expanded into a beauty of rainbow love as I reach out

to those who have climbed in to it and held my hand and pulled coersed and slowly brought me out to begin my shining time,

To share my gift with the world.

love and light to all

Dee

xxx

the past three weeks

Hello well I thought I would share some snippets of dreams I can remember over the past few weeks, these are the ones I have recorded.

One dream is about my son's father who passed over nearly 12 years ago. I know when I am stressed he comes to me in a dream, this dream I am sharing with you is a dream that left me feeling really calm but re assured. He was at a big picnic table I was sitting at the table first and then I saw him appear through a group of people.

He sat to my left, and put down on the table a big bar of chocolate dark chocalate and some gorgeous big cookies.

I just looked at him and felt so very calm knowing he was there, the environment around me was plush and very green, with a lovely river at the back of him.

This only lasted a few moments but when I woke up I felt really good, I wrote down what I could remember.

This morning I fell back to sleep only to again have a dream about Food!!! and corridors, old employers, and ex colleagues I used to work with. It seemed that when I got to the end of the corridor there was another one for me to find.

there was so many different varieties of food, and yet each room I entered was either Light or dark so I have to wonder what this may have meant.

I will leave the interpretation to you all to see if there is a different view from others that I will recieve.

once I have had some feedback I will add my own interpretation of these dreams.

Love and light

Denise

The days that sometimes suprise us....

I have had a very different week this week so I thought it only right to try my best to share some of my feelings and experiences with you all here.
Firstly my son had my grandson over night on sunday and monday. Which gave me some joy to my heart.
My son went for a spiritual sitting on monday afternoon and came back elated and lifted for the first time in months. He allowed me to listen to his tape of the sitting and I was quite astounded at how accurate this lady was.
I knew her and understood her ways, she was a broad 'lancashire lass'. Lancashire being in the north west of England, she was a visiting medium to the church I visit.
I had booked myself a sitting for wednesday and was not sure what to expect from her, only I had said prayers that morning and hoped that it would be a peaceful reading.

when I arrived the church was filled with calmness as usual and the rooms I went through before I got to the little coffee shop were filled with anniversary memorbilia.
I was introduced to the medium and we went into a lovely little room off the coffee shop.
We talked for a few minutes and then she went into my reading.
She went straight into some very personal experiences and brought up some incidents that had occured and that there was somebody not leaving me alone and contacting me all the time.
I gasped because I have not mentioned this to anybody outside my two children.
then she brought through my grandmother, my dad's mum.
She went into all the heartache I have been through and that I dont deserve to be treated this way, that I have had a very rough year.
She went onto reveal some very personal incidents and brought through all the trauma I have been through with my son and his ex.She also asked have I had chance to see my grandson! which I found amazing because this is something I had mentioned in a previous blog.
Then she went onto to reveal my deepest emotions, and the fact that I had itchy feet and that I had been let down and hurt a great deal over the past few years. it was time to move off the island so that I would gain some peace of mind.
She brougth through my niece and also gave me some wonderful words of wisdom regarding my situation.

There were I have to say some lengthy parts where I was in tears, I really felt like somebody had climbed in my soul and had given her a script to read.

I am truly blessed to have so many spirit family close to assist my soul to recovery.

I thought I had recorded the whole sitting but when I came to replay it there was a huge gap in the tape and only the last five minutes were recorded.

I was so very dissappointed, but then when I talked with my daughter she came out with a saying I would use: maybe it was not meant to be recorded mum!

So I do believe it was not meant to be recorded in its entirity.

Some really good points with in the reading I do remember are, my nan( my dad's mum) was there from beginning to end of my sitting.

My niece came through with some beautiful words, of love and wisdom. My friend Jo who died two days after her came through to say hi! and last but not least my young friend Kell, she was only 28 when she passed of ovarian cancer, she wanted me to know that she will be there beside me if I need her.

I cried Knowing that they were indeed right close to me. Including all those who are here on the earthplane to keep me strong.

She did how ever reveal a shock to me which has only been a deep rooted thought, this broke my heart a little,but I know that with my grandmothers spirit, and my aunts spirit close by they will both give me strength to make the right choices.

I know that one of those choices is to stay in the moment, to make a plan to move out of the bad energy that I am being thrust into.

I will become the 'me' I know I have inside me, a peaceful soul that needs to be shining again.

Love and light

Dee

The moon the reason to Dance

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this morning I was up at 4.00a.m. the moon was asking to be danced with.It kept hiding behind some very thin clouds.
I love the moon and now that I can relate more to the moon I will share some facts and fictions about the moon.

One thing I do know I am a kindred spirit of the moon and one of my spirit guides is called Moonstar, so my connection and the actual connection to the female psyche is the moon.

I will add more soon.
love and light
Dee

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dreams and how we are affected...

the dreams we have when heavy sleeping....

the dreams we have when heavy sleeping, I have been sleeping drug induced and not very good but very vivid dreaming.
I know that I have had a great deal on my mind lately and my dad always seems to visit me in my dreams, which I am most glad of. Sometimes though I wonder what I can make of some of the mad dreams I do have..
Dad was there with mum and then he was on his own at a market, so very odd. I know that I have had many dreams around cloth and market stalls. I wonder what they mean.
But I know that I have felt sad in some and in others I have felt drained, and weary.
I sat a few days ago and wrote a long letter to a relative and this letter may or may not be recieved well. I have had to say how I feel.I have always trodden on eggshells and been scared to speak out of line as a young person and as I have gotten older learning to speak out is fine.
well thats all of that for now.... these few words below remind me of how low pepople can get and we all need positive encouragement.... So here are some of mine from my heart
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Hope in your heart……
There are times when we feel in despair
When nothing looks quite right,
We want things to be so perfect,
We forget our aims, our dreams.
We are consumed by what others want
Not our needs….
We take up their dreams..
By pushing ours to the back…

When it’s our turn to put our dreams
In action, we are condemned shouted at,
Ignored, spoken to abhorrently, emotionally
Abused and blackmailed….
This leaves us feeling bewildered and depleted
Unhappy unloved, unsure of who we really are

Is that what you want?
Hold on to your dreams believe
You can….
Always know that you are loved,
Supported, can be encouraged, cared
For, energized and confident when
At last you hold that dream…
To the closest part of your heart..
And watch it develop, before your
Eyes…………

drh july 2000.

A Blog from the past ....

another girls blog..... this was from October 2006 I hopeyou enjoy this

I went onto Myspace today to read this blog, I thougth I would share this with you all and hopefully get a response from you.
Let me know what you think.
love and light
Denise
xx


CAN WOMEN 'DO THEIR THING'???!!! Current mood: curious Category: Romance and Relationships
--> -->A friend 2day said that women cant do their thing... I replied that:I see yr point but also have to point out that, if a woman walks her walk with grace, confidence, strength and dignity, she can have plenty experiences and still b as desirable and worthy wife material! It is down to a man's insecurities to have issues with how many previous partners she has had...I used to think that sleeping with many men made u cheap but realise that it really plays no role in depreciating yr value as a woman! Another thing that has come to my attention is that 'oldskool wifeys' are a rare occurance and the ones that appear to b good girls simply hide their movements well!! LOL If i were a man, i wouldnt care about her past, only her truth and our future 2geva...honesty is the best policy ;)
He then replied that in an idolistic world that's how it should be, but in reality men get funny about too many men being able to claim they have bedded their woman... to which i pointed out that --> --> -->StartFragment --> the women that know their worth and self respect will only chose the ones that can elevate themselves to the next level ;)
So I want to know both opinions...gurlies and men...does the past really make that much of a difference if u meet Ms Right? If u feel they will honour, respect and share a beautiful life journey with u, does it really matter that u may come across others that 'already been there'?!!
Fill me in :) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

This was my comment and a response from the lady who had written the blog, and her friends comment.
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Friends comment first:
I dont give a dam about all the dudes in the past, as far as im concerned it's a new chapter in both of our lives.
Posted by Wayne A Robinson on Monday,
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my comment:
Well what a subject, I have been a single mum most of my life my first partner, a sailor. MM yes I think the term every port a different girl, suited him. That doesnt mean I loved him less.
But I do believe men have an instinct of territory, and this is a 'caveman' attitude from days gone by. I also believe that if a son is brought up to be open minded and to understand that our lives are what we make it, then we will create healthy attitudes to; how modern women may be looked at with respect and dignity.This will give experience of love and not looked at as carrying 'baggage' from a previous relationship.
This so called 'baggage' is what makes us.
tA man will find this attractive to begin with because a woman will exude confidence, strength and has no fear to express what she wants from that man she is with.
I believe a man would find this extremely encouraging,sexy and alluring , which in turn would give the man confidence to ask the woman out!!
A woman could be as insecure about the man's past, but if she learns to look beyond that,they can both share an extremely passionate relationship. In the PRESENT, which could then be built for a stronger future.
Our past is there to help us, not hinder us.
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Miss G's response :
That's what I'm talking about!! It's not about limiting our future by dwelling in our past! Thank U Denise! xG

response
connie
"rommance and relationships" nobody ever told us when we were younger how much hard work has to be put into a relationship and how many years it takes to build the trust of one another,so much angst and fear at the beginning and not knowing is their still feelings for any old flames??if only it was as easy as we read in our fairytales when they all fell in love with the most perfect partners and lived happily ever after, it should be that whatever someone has done in the past "is their past" and does not need to explain to anybody about it as it was their decision at that time and nothing to do with anybody else..some good advice when you are getting into a serious relationship do not dig for information that you really deep down do not want to know about.. start your relationship with the toughts in your that this person is really great and whatever was done in his or her past is their past and nothing to do with this coming together of two people,for the way i see it is every body has a past and if you think that you are going to find a partner without one then you my friend are still living in a fairytale...
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dreams and how I record them

Hello there every body I thought I would share some of my thoughts on dreams and how over the past thirty years I have kept a dream journal. I have bought books for interpretation to aid my somewhat lucid and sometimes out right confusing dreams.

I have had dreams of prophetic value and warnings and I know when I have gone back over my writings I have been astonished at what I have achieved by keeping a record of my dreams and adding an interpretation to them.

I am a very spiritual person anyway and I know that my dreams have aided, encouraged and help me achieve to understand the world we dont always see.

We dont always understand why certain things happen in our dreams.

I know that I have been blessed with an open mind and my psyche is in tune with who I am.

Sometimes when I am imbalanced I have the oddest dreams I dont rest properly and I feel like my head has not released the dream correctly.

Today is just one of those days. My mind has been taking in so much recently that my dreams are imbalanced and not making any sense.

I can normally wake up and write down my whole dream, lately this is not possible I am getting out of bed and getting distracted before I have chance to write any of my dream life down.

So as of today i will do my best to write them down as soon as I awake.

If its all right with the group I would also like to share some of these dreams with you all.

We can try to anaylise each others dreams if we put our waking heads together.

What do you think? maybe we all get to put a dream on this page and ask for feed back?

If this is not what you feel is a good idea I dont mind.

Just message me...

Love and light always

Dee

A grandmother's thoughts...

I have been experiencing some new feelings as a paternal grandmother.
My son has split from his girlfriend and they have a son together. She has been a very controlling and hurtful person, and using my grandson as a weapon to try to win my son back.
This however is not what where my subject matter is going, this is about the rights of grandparents.
Are there any for the paternal side of the child’s family. After much advise searching and deep conversations with those in authority. NO not a one.
If this person wants to she can sign her son over to one of her family I would have no rights what so ever to gain more visitation rights.
It is a helpless plight, I am resigned to the fact that I may only get to see my grandson once the access and custody case has gone to court, and my son has time with him.
Yester day was a revelation as my grandson got to spend the day with us; it was a wonderful to have some time with him. We have not seen him for two weeks since he was in hospital and his mother, would not allow me or my daughter to see him.
I understand that my grandson’s mother has a right to be who she is but it has brought out in me a very strong maternal instinct for protection towards my son and grandson.
Before they split up I got to have my grandson at least twice a week. Sometimes more but now I don’t have that, my son has to share his time with me and my daughter. I feel he has been cheated in some way and I feel a little cheated too.
Once it goes to court which may take some time and a lot more conflict I will hopefully see an end to my son’s turmoil and hopefully get to see my grandson regularly.
I wondered if there are any other paternal grandmothers out there or any single dads who have had this problem of just loving a member of their family and have had an extreme feeling of loss.
My spirituality has been tested beyond all parameters. I have sent out as many prayers for healing and peace in my heart I could possibly think of.
I have had amazing support from those who have given prayers of healing for my grandson’s wellbeing.
Being a grandmother I have to admit isn’t what I expected, I now have to put out my forgiveness to both my children’s’ paternal grandmother’s and say with all my heart I am sorry, I didn’t always involve them in my children’s growth.
I hope that both their spirits as they are passed now understand that these things happen and maybe this is a lesson for me to see that it’s about the children.
My son’s grandmother I have to be honest was a very close and wonderful friend to me, but I moved away and she didn’t get to see my son that often.
My daughter’s grandmother never got to see her granddaughter at all as this was her father’s choice.
I know from the recent contact of my daughter’s with her father that his mum did keep a photograph of her as an infant that I had originally sent to him and she had known about her grand daughter who lived away.

This has made me realise that older family members are needed in a child’s life if it benefits them, if there is nurturing to offer and encouragement and of course the most unconditional of all Love as only Love is real.

I miss my grandson and I know that my daughter misses him too. So I can understand my son’s heart aches when he does not get to see his son regularly.

Years ago it didn’t matter that a guy would walk away from the mother of his child but times have changed and a man is showing how much he wants to be a part of a child’s life.

I am only speaking from personal experience I brought both my children up with out a permanent father but I feel I have given them a stable home and a good way of knowing love, trust and support and that having family close is important.

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good morning and How my heart goes...

This morning I have lay awake wondering when I am going to be able to visit my grandson, he is slowly getting back on the road to recovery but has a few more days in hospital.

I rang the children' s ward about 6.30 a.m. and had a lovely member of the nursing staff tell me that he was a little bit better.

I have been blessed with the gift of prayer from a dear online friend who has given me some amazing guidance and true spiritual blessings. I am part of a group she has set up and I hope that her work goes on and on, all those who contribute to the pages leave some wonderful pieces of encouragement of prose, mostly of love with tinges of ancient philosophy.

I am posting this blog partly as a way of thanks and of deeply felt gratitude for the beautiful prayer put together by my friend November Rain and for all the wonderful comments attached to this prayer, I feel quite humbled and honoured that my grandson has now been taken under their wings.

He is a true indigo child one of amazing spirit and blessed with the most infectious smile. He has not been able to wear this smile due to his illness but on thursday evening I got the chance to see him and spend a couple of hours with him. We had a little giggle and I talked with him and sang him some songs. He got tired very quickly and I cuddled him for a little while and lay him down.

I again hope that anybody who has a new little life be blessed with friends and support the way I, my son, daughter and grandson have.

We are truly honoured to have such people who give out only true and honest love selflessly and for the greater good of tiny souls.

I am a very spiritual person and I really feel that my own gifts have been enhanced as I have been put to the test for the past six weeks or more.

I have a website with spiritual messages if you feel you would like to read more then by all means please go and visit my site: Deesinspirations this link will take you to one of the pages.

Love and light always

Denise